Ever since I was 15 years old, I have had a love affair with turntables. For more then half my life, it’s the one thing that I can always count on to be there for me. DJing doesn’t judge me or make me feel inferior in anyway. It doesn’t stereotype me and make accusations that have no merit. Unfortunately that is not always the case when it comes to dealing with people, especially of the opposite sex. Believe me I am far from the only one in my profession that feels this way.
We are often looked at as unstable, unfaithful and just out right irresponsible. Granted that there are many out there that more then live up to these stereotypes. However, not everyone is out to just get laid and drink themselves under the table. We are not all out to sleep with every one that crosses our path. DJ’S need love too!
Often people look at a DJ as someone that is a huge risk to date. Why does this stereotype exist? In most cases I think it comes from ignorance. People often judge what they don’t understand and what they find to be out of their comfort zone. I think very seldom does this judgment come from personal experience but more often comes from an insecurity within themselves.
This profession is like any other. We work hard to pay our bills and support our families if we have any. The main difference in our case is we get paid to do what we love. While some people work 8-12 hour days 5 days a week and hate it. DJs on the other hand, work maybe 3-5 hours a couple times a week and often make more then the person stuck in a cubicle or an office all day everyday. Sometimes We get to travel the world and get paid for it! We get to connect with crowds of sometimes thousands of people and share with them an experience through our music.
Many people often think that because there our tons of women around us every night that they are all lining up to be with us. Not the case. I have many friends that are DJs that are very lonely and can’t find anyone worth dating. Also some of us are looking for substance and a real relationship and may not even want the club chicks that want to be with us because of who we are and what we do. If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat and it doesn’t matter what they do for a living.
As for the security aspect of the fear that women often have, let me address that. If someone is fortunate enough to be a full time DJ, it’s probably because they are exceptional at it and are blessed enough to do what they love. It doesn’t mean that all we know how to do is DJ and when our time runs its course that we’re gonna be living under the freeway. I believe most of us have other skills and will use them when needed. Most of us have worked in the corporate world before. But many of us are entrepreneurs and enjoy having the liberty of not having a boss. Does this make us irresponsible? Would you say the same thing about someone that just opened a business such as a restaurant or a store?
Another thing that really bothers me is when people think what we do is easy and anyone can do it. Well, there are some fake non talented impostors out there that just push buttons. A real DJ though is someone that in many cases have spent (sometimes) decades developing their abilities. We have tremendous stress on us. We often have to deal with drunk, obnoxious and aggressive people. Sometimes we have people in our faces trying to tell us how to do our jobs when we know better then anyone in the room how to do our jobs. If a venue isn’t doing well, sometimes we get blamed for it.
When you are a professional DJ, the sky is the limit what can be achieved. It is not only possible to make a six-figure income, there are actually DJs that make seven and eight-figure incomes. It takes a secure and understanding woman to date a DJ or a musician. But remember, we are the same as everyone else…don’t hate on us because we get to do what we are passionate about and have enough balls to go after it.
Remember, DJs need love too!